Yesterday I was reading Tracy Helgeson's blog in which she mentioned that her son was turning thirteen. That really got me to thinking about teenagers in general as I do happen to have two of them.
Teenagers are this strange group of people who are stuck between adulthood and childhood. Every so often you see fragments of their young selves shining through but just as quickly it disappears only to make itself known at another time and another place. There appears to be this struggle between who they are and who they long to become. I think we as adults sometimes forget what a tumulteous period of life it is. At very rare moments they think you are cool (but only if their friends are not around) sometimes they are loving but can just as quickly withdraw with the thought that no one really understands them. The world they live in is something they will have to journey through all the while experiencing their own joys and hardships. As parents we want so badly to ensure that they suffer no adversity but deep down inside we know that it is necessary for them to continue to grow as people.
A friend of John's once said about teenagers, "it is almost as if when your sweet little one turns 13 they enter into a tunnel. Every so often they emerge briefly to see if there is anything to eat, to sometimes watch a movie with you, to do chores grudingly and most importantly to tell you they love you."
So I'm thinking..........after all is said and done and the teenage years have passed, your beautiful sweet child reappears from that tunnel full of all their experiences, good and bad, and you truly realize.......maybe you really did do a lot of things right.